Dandelions and other weeds

Blooming grief.

I’m sometimes asked “You know dandelion is a weed, don’t you?!” when discussing the symbolism of the NowThen logo.  I do know this!  A weed, is, by definition, “any plant considered undesirable in a particular situation, growing where it is not wanted.”

I’ve often been struck by how much the humble dandelion has in common with death and grief: undesirable = sometimes; showing up where it is not wanted = often.  Yet dandelions are incredibly resilient and adaptable plants, able to thrive in various climates, soil conditions - even through cracks in paving.   Because of this resilience, dandelions often play a vital role in ecological systems.  Their deep taproots can help break up compacted soil, improving its structure and allowing other plants to grow more easily.  Considered "pioneer plants" they have the ability to colonise disturbed or barren areas, preventing soil erosion and aiding in the restoration of damaged ecosystems.

So, too, our grief runs deep, but also affords us opportunities to flourish. In some cultures, dandelions symbolize resilience, making a wish, letting go, or being able to overcome challenges.  Even joy, particularly if you appreciate the idea of blowing those fluffy seed heads and imagining the possibilities of those released seeds. I can clearly recall the joy of blowing their fluffy seed heads, spending many magical “wishes” on full, pom-pom-like dandelion heads as a child. I don’t recall any of those coming to fruition but the possibilities felt endless.

I’m sure you get the “drift” of the analogy! Whether you view your situation as a weed, rearing its ugly head where you least want or expect it, or a catalyst for growth, renewal or possibility will depend on your current relationship with your grief.

I encourage you to reflect on your feelings about grief, weeds and where you are in your relationship to both. Should you wish to explore these in more depth, hope you’ll remember the NowThen dandelion. The possibilities are endless.